I agree in some instances experiencing trauma can bring about positive change and build resilience, however this is usually only possible if the traumatized individual has enough support around them in the form of positive friends, family and psychological/spiritual mentors and of cause groups like R&R definitely help. Trauma can be an agent for change but a traumatized individual can’t do this own their own or without the right help and intervention. Ultimately the individual also needs to want to find the positives and move forward as well !
Thought-provoking post, trying to work out my own stance on it. Overall I like the “post-traumatic growth” concept and can relate to it. I think it’s a concept to tread carefully with, though.
Yes, we can grow from our traumas and in many ways they make us the people we are today. But the first quote in the article lists rape as such a trauma, for example. How can we promote growth concepts while avoiding any pitfalls like “oh she was raped, but look at all the fantastic personal growth she’ll get out of that!”?
To me, growth is a silver lining of trauma and a way for us to create meaning from it. But it doesn’t make the trauma a good thing.
Of course it can. In fact, I think it's wasted if it isn't. It can give you the wake up call or kick up the arse you might need.
It's a lot like when someone with substance abuse issues finally hits rock bottom and does something about it. It's ugly and harmful to both them and those around them. But without going through that low, things never get bad enough for them to do something about it, and they'll never get to see the opportunities that lie on the other side.
No matter what happens in life, you always have a choice between making good and bad choices. Often it's hard to decipher which is which, particularly in a traumatised state, but there is always a choice.
I think when you’ve experienced trauma in your early childhood or adolescence. You will deal with what life throws at you without falling apart.
As in trauma teachers you to separate yourself from what’s happening. I think it’s common for people to do this, so they don’t crumble.
Like if I have had to discuss certain events in my life, I will dissociate myself from what’s happened.
The emotional aspect can hit at times when there’s been a trigger sure.
I wonder if part of the growth steams from looking in at the situation rather than being apart of it.
You might view money or status differently, so your views on society change.
By all of this, you can understand how people work. You can bring humour to life and the shit it throws your way and help others who are going through stuff.
Spiritually, I believe that takes time.
But for people who decide they will not lay down and be defeated. It’s more like saying “I am not going to oppressed by what’s happened” Like fuck that.
But that comes down to personality - not always your support.
I agree in some instances experiencing trauma can bring about positive change and build resilience, however this is usually only possible if the traumatized individual has enough support around them in the form of positive friends, family and psychological/spiritual mentors and of cause groups like R&R definitely help. Trauma can be an agent for change but a traumatized individual can’t do this own their own or without the right help and intervention. Ultimately the individual also needs to want to find the positives and move forward as well !
Thought-provoking post, trying to work out my own stance on it. Overall I like the “post-traumatic growth” concept and can relate to it. I think it’s a concept to tread carefully with, though.
Yes, we can grow from our traumas and in many ways they make us the people we are today. But the first quote in the article lists rape as such a trauma, for example. How can we promote growth concepts while avoiding any pitfalls like “oh she was raped, but look at all the fantastic personal growth she’ll get out of that!”?
To me, growth is a silver lining of trauma and a way for us to create meaning from it. But it doesn’t make the trauma a good thing.
Of course it can. In fact, I think it's wasted if it isn't. It can give you the wake up call or kick up the arse you might need.
It's a lot like when someone with substance abuse issues finally hits rock bottom and does something about it. It's ugly and harmful to both them and those around them. But without going through that low, things never get bad enough for them to do something about it, and they'll never get to see the opportunities that lie on the other side.
No matter what happens in life, you always have a choice between making good and bad choices. Often it's hard to decipher which is which, particularly in a traumatised state, but there is always a choice.
I think when you’ve experienced trauma in your early childhood or adolescence. You will deal with what life throws at you without falling apart.
As in trauma teachers you to separate yourself from what’s happening. I think it’s common for people to do this, so they don’t crumble.
Like if I have had to discuss certain events in my life, I will dissociate myself from what’s happened.
The emotional aspect can hit at times when there’s been a trigger sure.
I wonder if part of the growth steams from looking in at the situation rather than being apart of it.
You might view money or status differently, so your views on society change.
By all of this, you can understand how people work. You can bring humour to life and the shit it throws your way and help others who are going through stuff.
Spiritually, I believe that takes time.
But for people who decide they will not lay down and be defeated. It’s more like saying “I am not going to oppressed by what’s happened” Like fuck that.
But that comes down to personality - not always your support.
That’s my two sense anyway.