I thought I was being stoic until my wife just put it bluntly- “you’re unhappy and need to get some help, you can’t rely on me for emotional support, reconnect with your friends and talk to them about your problems”
Even after that I had the attitude that my problems weren’t even that bad, so many people have it far worse, who would even listen to my boring problems? It was like imposter syndrome for depression!
Same. Finding the balance between "being stoic" and "asking for help" is tough I reckon. Maybe being stoic is the goal, but does that mean we can't ask for help along the way?
I guess it’s about interpretation too. Seeking some help is stoic in itself. Life in its self is all about balance, right? Each trait, feeling, emotion is as imperative as the last. There’s a reason they all exist, because they’re all important. It’s like a bullshit long algorithm in an excel spreadsheet. One typo brings it all undone. You’re right though, we know balance is key, but it’s not as simple as just stumbling across it. You have to work it out then have the ability to adjust it as your circumstances in life change... in my most humble opinion. Haha.
I thought I was being stoic until my wife just put it bluntly- “you’re unhappy and need to get some help, you can’t rely on me for emotional support, reconnect with your friends and talk to them about your problems”
Even after that I had the attitude that my problems weren’t even that bad, so many people have it far worse, who would even listen to my boring problems? It was like imposter syndrome for depression!
Once again I find myself agreeing with you completely, mate. Love it.
Same. Finding the balance between "being stoic" and "asking for help" is tough I reckon. Maybe being stoic is the goal, but does that mean we can't ask for help along the way?
I guess it’s about interpretation too. Seeking some help is stoic in itself. Life in its self is all about balance, right? Each trait, feeling, emotion is as imperative as the last. There’s a reason they all exist, because they’re all important. It’s like a bullshit long algorithm in an excel spreadsheet. One typo brings it all undone. You’re right though, we know balance is key, but it’s not as simple as just stumbling across it. You have to work it out then have the ability to adjust it as your circumstances in life change... in my most humble opinion. Haha.
Bang on. It's iterative, isn't it. We think we want that smooth curve where we're always in balance but then life is boring lol.
Ride the highs, embrace the lows, enjoy the clear water when we get it but be ready for the white stuff to hit us again.
No pressure, no diamonds!